Enforce nullness consistency on EppResponse.set...() methods

The callsites were inconsistent between whether they were passing empty list or
null, and many of the ones that were passing null were not correctly annotated
with @Nullable. I'm now going with empty list throughout except for the final
step where the actual field that will be transformed into XML is set, where it
is coerced to null to avoid an empty element in the XML output.

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java/google/registry/flows/domain/DomainTransferRequestFlow.java

@@ -408,7 +408,7 @@ public final class DomainTransferRequestFlow implements TransactionalFlow {
   private ImmutableList<FeeTransformResponseExtension> createResponseExtensions(Money renewCost,
       FeeTransferCommandExtension feeTransfer) {
     return feeTransfer == null
-        ? null
+        ? ImmutableList.of()
         : ImmutableList.of(feeTransfer.createResponseBuilder()
             .setCurrency(renewCost.getCurrencyUnit())
             .setFees(ImmutableList.of(Fee.create(renewCost.getAmount(), FeeType.RENEW)))