When a `with_connect` operation timed out, the underlying connection
attempt continued to run in the reactor. This could lead to a crash
if the connection was established/rejected after the client object had
already been destroyed. This issue was observed during the teardown
phase of a upcoming high-availability test case.
This commit fixes the race condition by ensuring the connection attempt
is properly canceled on timeout.
Additionally, the explicit TLS handshake previously forced during the
connection is now deferred to the first I/O operation, which is the
default and preferred behavior.
Fixes: SCYLLADB-832
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