Use token_metadata get_endpoint_to_host_id_map_for_reading
to get all normal token owners for all node operations,
rather than using gossip for some operation and
token_metadata for others.
Fixes#12862Closes#13256
* github.com:scylladb/scylladb:
storage_service: node ops: standardize sync_nodes selection
storage_service: get_ignore_dead_nodes_for_replace: make static and rename to parse_node_list