Fixes#25709
If we have large allocations, spanning more than one segment, and
the internal segment references from lead to secondary are the
only thing keeping a segment alive, the implicit drop in
discard_unused_segments and orphan_all can cause a recursive call
to discard_unused_segments, which in turn can lead to vector
corruption/crash, or even double free of segment (iterator confusion).
Need to separate the modification of the vector (_segments) from
actual releasing of objects. Using temporaries is the easiest
solution.
To further reduce recursion, we can also do an early clear of
segment dependencies in callbacks from segment release (cf release).
Closesscylladb/scylladb#25719
(cherry picked from commit cc9eb321a1)
Closesscylladb/scylladb#25754
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