During a graceful node shutdown, RPC listeners are stopped in `storage_service::drain_on_shutdown`
as one of the first steps. However, even after RPCs are shut down, some write handlers in
`storage_proxy` may still be waiting for background writes to complete. These handlers retain the ERM.
Since the RPC subsystem is no longer active, replies cannot be received, and if any RPC commands are
concurrently executing `barrier_and_drain`, they may get stuck waiting for those writes. This can block
the messaging server shutdown and delay the entire shutdown process until the write timeout occurs.
This change introduces the cancellation of all outstanding write handlers in `storage_proxy`
during shutdown to prevent unnecessary delays.
Fixesscylladb/scylladb#23665
(cherry picked from commit e0dc73f52a)
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