Fixes#20862
With the change in 60af2f3cb2 the bookkeep
for buffer memory was changed subtly, the problem here that we would
shrink buffer size before we after flush use said buffer's size to
decrement the buffer_list_bytes value, previously inc:ed by the full,
allocated size. I.e. we would slowly grow this value instead of adjusting
properly to actual used bytes.
Test included.
(cherry picked from commit ee5e71172f)
Closesscylladb/scylladb#20902
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